Day 7

Wyoming

08/08/2011

45 Comments

QUIET IN LARAMIE
by Bassam Tariq

In a still and quiet night, Laramie is sleeping. The bars have closed, the homeless have vanished and the city is left to gophers and armadillos painting the night with a melody so benign that CD’s are made of it and sold to you at Target.

Laramie is a college town and since the University of Wyoming has not started fall classes the town is desolate. We watched the sun fall waiting for someone to open the door of the mosque. The brother who greeted us was patient and left us a large meal to break our fast. His wife and daughter awaited him at home, so he rushed back to them after dropping off the food.

The Muslim community in Laramie is very small. There are close to ten to fifteen families. The congregants that make up the majority of the community are international students studying from Libya and Sadi Arabia.  The community got together and bought a run-down church and converted it into a mosque. Even now, the remnants of the stained glasses have been kept paying an homage to its past.

After breaking our fast, I walked the streets to find Laramie.

The stillness can move you. The pitch dark can scare you. The Divine will demand to be remembered. The cold weather will test you and the wind that blows will ask – if you can accept the city for what it is and not what you want it to be. It will ask you to look past the bleak history that taints the empty streets and closed bars. It will plead you to move on from the tragic killing of Matthew Shepard and find something deeper.

But how can one look over such a tragic killing? In 1988, two men were giving Matthew Shepard a ride home, when they instead took him to a field and tied him to a fence. They broke his skull, cut his right ear and left him bleeding. His body was found 18 hours later by a cyclist. His killers confessed in court that they killed Shepard because of his sexual orientation.

Knowing this, how do you walk around a desolate, empty town with predominantly white folk no prejudice? So when a man slows down his truck or when someone stares at you from their porch– how can you not be paranoid?

I have found a subtle side of America that is triumphed in abstract rock formations and desolate street corners. In broken shopping strip malls and 24hr Adult Stores. There is simplicity cemented in the concrete and Laramie celebrates it. To understand it, you must meet her on her terms. You must find Happy Jack Summit, a majestic mountain summit or indulge in the echoes from the freight trains passing by downtown. At night, Laramie sleeps, but it is still breathing.

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  • T.

    Loving this year adventures so far, although it seems sad that you haven’t actually met that many new Muslims–Insha’allah more mosques along the way will be open and filled!  I will say though when reading this post that if you don’t state the name of the hate (HOMOPHOBIA) that caused the
    brutal torture and murder of Matthew Shepard, how will we ever as a
    Muslim community also remember to not engage in similar tactics and
    opinions and realize that hate crimes span the spectrum, from race to
    religion to sexual orientation, and NONE are acceptable as an excuse to
    harm any of God’s creatures. Keep it real….and that we should all remember that with this young man’s death, the laws regarding hate crimes were forever changed in this country to increase our protection as potential victims of Muslims hate crimes.

    • Hadi

      I agree–it would be a commendable edit to state clearly the type of bigotry that fueled Matthew Shepard’s brutal murder.

      • http://twitter.com/curry_crayola Bassam Tariq

        Thanks T and Hadi. I forgot to add the last part cos of a shoddy internet connection. Have added it in now.

        • Hena

          * Correction: Shepard’s death occurred in 1998, not 1988.

          And this is of interest – there was a play developed called the Laramie Project:

          http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Laramie_Project

          This play includes portrayals of real people who lived in Laramie during
          the time of the tragic event, and guess what, one of the characters
          portrayed is – yep – a Muslim. A Muslim woman. 

  • Biru

    Great entry. It’s surprising that even in remote states in America there is a Muslim pulse!

  • Elyas

    Somethings are better left alone then mentioned. We should not know about any homosexually related event that took place in a little town somewhere in America. It was irrelevant to the story. Im sure there were more important historical events that took place in that small town. I dont understand why you would resort to mentioning such an event knowing that we Muslims do not want to hear anything to do with homosexuallity because Allah curse them. I think you know what happened to the people of prophet Lut, how they were destroyed. Subhanalah. Evil things are easy to mention for Muslims nowadays in the hopes of being politically correct…That been said, I invite you folks to my blog ..myhajj.blogspot.com

    • A fan

      Not mentioning something does not make a problem go away.

    • Rashda Shanaz

      It’s not as if they were promoting it – they were highlighting a violent hate crime which should be comdemned regardless of the victim’s sexual orientation or your religion – who are you to judge when that is Allas SWT’s role!

      • Rashda Shanaz

        *Allah SWT

      • Elyas

        All I can see from you folks is that your diluting the religion. And y’all doing it in the name of liberalism and in the hope of getting accepted. Look, you are who you are, a Muslim and a Muslim follows the example of the Prophet(SCW) and the Quran. Therefore, why talk about something cursed by Allah subhaanahu wa ta’alaa.

        Rashid, btw, since we talking about liberalising the religion. Are you a supporter of a women leading prayers in the mosque, like this woman did in NYC?

        • Rashda Shanaz

          Firstly, get my name right! Secondly I support Islam in it’s purest sense, which means following the Qur’an and teachings of the Prophet SAWS. Any teachings I have read do not condone violence to an opressed minority regardless of what their sexual preferences or personal beliefs are.

          • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_KJB6IH45HBV4PFIPHAY4GQURCQ buriedinlit

            I agree with parts of what both you and Elyas are saying.  Elyas doesnt think as Muslims we are allowed to breach the topic of homosexuality because it is an evil matter best left ignored.  I dont agree with that because frankly even the Prophet (saw) addressed it and therefore it was a topic of interest and relevance.  However I agree with him that there is an increasingly liberal segment of our community that attempts to twist and manipulate the religion in order to mold into something more PC with the 21st century West.   Lets be realistic Rashda Islam is pretty straight forward with its views on homosexuality.  Multiple hadiths quote the Prophet proscribing the death penalty for those caught engaging homosexual intercourse.  Now let me make this very clear, this does not mean I think we should kill homosexuals or target them.  We live in a secular democracy that allows us to practice our religion freely, which obliges us as Muslims to follow the laws of this country.  Also the death penalty being proscribed under Islamic law.  This is important because in order to apply sentences of Islamic law you need to be living in an Islamic state.  An Islamic state is supposed to provide believers with a necessary economic and moral environment to prosper.  Since we are not in an Islamic state it would be unfair to hold someone to the same standards as one who benefited from the intended protections and benefits of an Islamic state.  By the way to clarify when I say Islamic state I mean a country that is being run Islamically in the way that Islam intended, which can be argued doesnt exist today.  Anyway I think its important for people not to try to back their arguments up with Islam if its not there.  If your views on homosexuality differ from Islam dont try to manipulate it to support it, just say this is my view period.  I recall one time when i was in college, there was a so called “imam” claiming homosexuality was permittable in Islam, and the people of Lut were only punished because they were going to rape the angels not because they are homosexual.  I think there is abundant evidence Islam is against homosexuality whether you believe differently or not is your prerogative, but lets not say Islam protects them as an oppressed minority because it doesnt.  In the case of Mathew Shepard I’m against his killing not because of his sexual orientation, but because it was an act of vigilantism cruelly administered outside the law.

          • Rashda Shanaz

            At the end of the day, I will be judged by Allah SWT, as will we all. I am not trying to justify my views, I don’t need to.

        • http://twitter.com/UHuraira Umm Huraira

          There’s a huge difference between believing in the sharia penalty for homosexuality and endorsing an honor killing. Honor killings are not part of Islam and they never will be. Islam requires four witnesses to any act of sexual transgression, whether we’re talking about adultery or homosexual behavior. If there are no witnesses to the actual act, then a confession – a confession given freely and not coerced – is the only thing that can prove that person guilty in the duniya.

          People who commit homosexual acts do not deserve to be killed by a group of people acting outside of the law, and that goes for any country on the face of the planet. So even the strictest interpretation of sharia would not allow for Shepard to be killed the way he was.

          Objecting to the senseless, torturous death of a man has nothing to do with liberalism. I strongly suggest that you study Islamic Sharia before you give fatawa because brother, you need a good helping of ilm.

    • Rayan

      Actually, Allah cursed those who resort to violence to spread their message.  Muslims object the harm of any innocent life that does not attack you first.  A homosexuals’ habits are for Allah to judge, not for us.  If you want to blanket condemn homosexuals and pretend they do not exist, shall we do the same for the corrupt leaders that rule every Muslim country? Shall we pretend murder does not exist?

      What in Islam has taught you that you have the right to judge others? Many Muslims around the world drink alcohol, possibly most, be we do not ban the people who drink from mosques, it would be a foolish endeavour.  Similarly, the Qur’an condemns the act of homosexuality, not homosexuals.  Moreover, this is irrelevant here, what is relevant is that someone KILLED another human being with no just cause.  

      • Elyas

        I do  not support any vigilante justice. At the same time I will never accept anyone who’s homosexual. Why? Obviously they are cursed by Allah.

        Of course I will not do anything with them, meaning, I would not hurt them. However, my personal opinion is that homosexuality is so evil and corrupt that Allah shall destroyed them like the people of Lut. May Allah wipe them out with uncurable disease.

        Corrupt leaders are evil as well. I do not condone them either.

        Yes, true many Muslims drink alcohol, Please do not compare this with someone who’s homosexual. Stop it right there you are making too much excuses for a evil lifestyle. La ilaaha ila laahu Mohamed Rasuululaah.

        • Rayan

          If we followed your logic, today Indonesia would be Hindu because the Arab merchants would desire no contact with them because of their beliefs and actions (idol-worship).  By this logic, we should admonish and fail to interact with prisoners (many prisoners have converted in the US), because they too are ‘evil.’

          You cannot even begin to argue that idol-worship is better than homosexuality (idol-worship is the #1 sin by consensus) and you cannot even try to argue that a murderer is better than a homosexual.  

          You are filled with hate brother and it is leading you to judge.  Focus on yourself, your family and live your life the way you want to.  If you have an opinion about others express it but do not judge them, leave that to the one who’s name is The Judge (Al-Hakam, one of the 99 names of Allah)

          • Ad

            I tend to agree with Elyas. In the first instance, mentioning the killing of a homosexual is clearly irrelevant, because it was not done by Muslims and he was not a Muslim. Pointing out what Allah has clearly forbidden is not judging people. Unless you want Islam to slide to the level of other religions where everybody decides what they want for themselves. Then Allah forbid, you may see the equivalent of ‘gay priest’, ‘female priest’ etc.

          • Elyas

            @Ad..Walahi thats the point I was trying to raise…Islam is unlike any other, it doesnt change for peoples desires and style of the day because this is a religion meant for human kind until enternity. Otherwise walahi we will end up allowing Gay Imams because we want to be cool and hip. This religion is not a cool contest, we are here for a reason to obey and worship Allah not to worship fellow fragile human beings.

          • Elyas

            There’s no point arguing with you Mam. I am not judging anyone. I am only keeping it real. If I see a person wearing a yellow shirt I think I have the right to say his wearing a yellow shirt. I will refrain from saying what is apparently obvious for all to see. Homosexuality is Satanic. Period. Get over it Mam. I assume you must be a female, if your not then your something else.

          • Elyas

            * I will NOT refrain from…

          • Rayan

            Firstly, the word is spelled, ma’am.  Secondly, I am a married Muslim man, regardless of your insinuations.  I can only imagine how insulted sisters are with your derogatory and infantile comment.

            Secondly, your wild exaggerations of what is actually being said somehow have lead you to the conclusion that I or others support Gay imams and are okay with homosexuality.  This is the only reason I have even bothered responding to you.  

            What is being said is that an injustice, is an injustice regardless of whether it is perpetrated against a Muslim, a homosexual, or any living entity (yes I am including animals too).  It is not ‘just’ simply because the person indulges in habits that are haram.  Indulging in homosexual behaviour is an unquestionable sin, but people like you seem to judge it as far worse than Zina which has no justification in Islamic Fiqh.  The act disgusts you, while Zina does not and for this reason you allow your emotions to make conclusions for you.  
            The problem with that, is it leads to decisions that are motivated by anger and hate rather than the correct Islamic thing to do.  As an example, the Prophet (saw) tolerated someone throwing filth at him on a daily basis, and yet Muslims the world over reacted like animals when someone decided to merely draw a caricature of the Prophet (saw).  In anger and passion at something which, while wrong is not exactly significant led to a tarnished image of our Prophet (saw), his Ummah, and our faith.  

          • Elyas

            Rayan(Mr English Professor), you r one of those people who will sellout the religion for fear of humans. especially what humans will think of you.

            Answer this..What do they do to people who have zina before marriege? In a Islamic states. As opposed to those who commit homosexual deeds?…That rests my case….Now you can continue watching your Bolywood movie…

          • Rayan

            You don’t judge people, but you are telling me that I will sell my religion.  

            Let me remind you of our Holy Qur’an, Chapter 49, Verse 18. ”O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.”

            Nevertheless, the people of Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed as much for their acts of homosexuality as for their disbelief in God (see Chapter 26 Verse 169-178 or Chapter 27 Verse 54-58 of the Holy Qur’an).  This is the same fate that the people of Noah met, despite their lack of any homosexual traits.Homosexuality cannot be done through marriage in Islam, because marriage is between a man and woman.  Homosexuality is thus a type of zina, it is no more heinous than any other zina.  By the way, the punishment of Zina in Islam is virtually impossible to implement if people are God-fearing.  It requires evidence and four witnesses; an impossible scenario for the burden of proof.  These people will answer to Allah and him alone.  See the Qur’an Chapter 2, Verses 2-20.

          • Rayan

            Firstly, the word is spelled, ma’am.  Secondly, I am a married Muslim man, regardless of your insinuations.  I can only imagine how insulted sisters are with your derogatory and infantile comment.

            Secondly, your wild exaggerations of what is actually being said somehow have lead you to the conclusion that I or others support Gay imams and are okay with homosexuality.  This is the only reason I have even bothered responding to you.  

            What is being said is that an injustice, is an injustice regardless of whether it is perpetrated against a Muslim, a homosexual, or any living entity (yes I am including animals too).  It is not ‘just’ simply because the person indulges in habits that are haram.  Indulging in homosexual behaviour is an unquestionable sin, but people like you seem to judge it as far worse than Zina which has no justification in Islamic Fiqh.  The act disgusts you, while Zina does not and for this reason you allow your emotions to make conclusions for you.  
            The problem with that, is it leads to decisions that are motivated by anger and hate rather than the correct Islamic thing to do.  As an example, the Prophet (saw) tolerated someone throwing filth at him on a daily basis, and yet Muslims the world over reacted like animals when someone decided to merely draw a caricature of the Prophet (saw).  In anger and passion at something which, while wrong is not exactly significant led to a tarnished image of our Prophet (saw), his Ummah, and our faith.  

    • Brother

      I like how you shamelessly promoted your blog in the comment. I urge all commenters to keep debates in a respectful manner. Remember, today is a time where one Muslim’s action automatically = Islam in general.

      • Elyas

        @Brother…Although I promoted my blog(myhajj.blogspot.com) i’ve returned the favor by dedicating a whole entry in my blog promoting this blog here.@twitter-18806239:disqus 

        Secondly, I am being respectuf. I dont know what made you think im offending anyone. If your speaking about homosexuals been offended then I cant help you on that brother. Allah cursed them and i’m a Muslim and I should dislike what Allah dislikes. And I believe we should not dirty our religion with acceptance of everything out there. No Muslim should except a homosexuality. Lest we should be treated like the people of prophet Lut(May peace be upon him).

        Nevertheless, I certaintly would not harm them or call anyone in this country to harm them. As you might know Islam teaches us to respect the law of the country we live in. However, like another brother mentioned, if we were living in a true Islamic State then I would not feel sorry for them.

         Btw, I am not filled with hate like some of you are accusing me of. Actually all im calling for is to keep the religion purified as it was meant to be. Our religion is not one that changes for the 21st centuries satanic phenomenon of homosexuality.

        Lastly, you people need to fear Allah not a fellow human being. A human being that is so fragile. A human being that can just die because of simple disease or in a car crash. A human being that is full of emotions. A human being that is full of mistakes. However, Allah is not inflicted with any of the aforementioned handicapness.

    • Geeboth

      “Somethings are better left alone then (sic) mentioned. We should not know about any homosexuality…….”
      Day 2 blog of 8 / 3 / 2011 in reply to Aaisha Shaikh you were the first to mention ‘homosexuality’ for which you got a fitting reply from Ahmed Desouki.

  • A fan

    Your website is like reading really good short stories- you don’t want each story to end so quickly but you look forward to reading the next one. Keep up the good work!

  • Anne

    This was my old Mosque – looks like they moved stuff around. Our little sliced out window from the penalty box doesn’t appear to allow vision of the Khutbah anymore – it was such a fight to get it in the first place. Eh, too each their own. One of the brothers got angry I wouldn’t pray in the box so he sliced a hole in that partition, I attemtped to make it look better by sewing on some fabric. It doesn’t look so hot now.

     I hope they fed you. We did used to have nice iftars, but the resident Matriarch moved to California so maybe not.

    • Jess

      I like that term ‘penalty box’!  There should be a survey of women’s spaces in US masajid.  Maybe next year!

  • A K

    Sufis / wahabis, ismailis / ahmadis, hijabis / see thru scarfis, below knee gangsta shorts /  above ankle shalwars, homosexuals / women imamat, love to hear from ‘em all. In this age of facebook / twitter they can all form their own place like Taleef in SF. Those who are dedicated to the 1st pillar as ‘profession of faith and do good’ , succeeds; those who are dedicated to faith only, leaves out the ‘good deed’ part and goes on pontificating the 5 pillars / 10 articles instead.
    Yoy two are doin’ a GOOD DEED.
     

    • Rahime

      define see thru scarfi!!! hahahaha MashaAllah you make me laugh!!!

    • Rahime

      define see thru scarfi!!! hahahaha MashaAllah you make me laugh!!!

  • Groundswell Movement

    Thanks so much for writing about your journey! We’ve written about it over here at http://groundswell-movement.org/30-mosques-in-30-days/

  • http://twitter.com/veritasthorn Jeff Sexton

    Again the outsider here, but glad to see the debate between Elyas and Rayan. Once again – you guys are more similar to us than the ideologues on either side would like to admit. ;)

  • guest

    eeerlily scary

  • Rahime

    Thanks guys for the story.  I found when I went back there recently this summer for a funeral, because I was raised there, that yes there can be some prejudices.  Especially when you are muslimah.  When they see you in hijab, but chucked it up to ignorance and left it there too.  I also decided the man must have thought, awww international student, instead of home grown.  Its such a different town when classes are in. It goes from silent to a busy alive place.  Imagine the conflict when you grew up there and come back a muslim????? Its sooooooooooo overwhelming especially as a woman.!!! Glad you are safe!

  • Rahime

    Brothers reading through the comments here, and you don’t have to justify your writings for me, but I understand why you wrote it this way.  This was a significant thing that happened that brought this little town to the forefront of all controversies.  It put Laramie back on the map in the USA.  No it is not what we would like to think of when we think of Laramie, but if you compare and contrast with prejudices; like being a mooooslem in the US and facing just that in a little town like this, it can be very difficult for people to accept and it is what you come up against even in a little sleepy place like Laramie. A place where there ARE educated people, but the average person there is home town country.  Truly, I know I was raised there.  If you go there, and you know nothing about Laramie’s history; like its significance in many many westerns (i.e. the film industry from say the 1940s to the present), or the fact that there are battlefields close by and Indians use to roam there.There are Indian reservations close by. Many many things, this one thing Matthew Shephard stands out. For many reasons.  Looks of a little small town can be decieving. Truly.  As I said before.  I went there for a funeral.  someone’s father, a girl I grew up with, died.  People who, their family and my family were as if one.  When you dress in abayas and hijab, and you go there, its such a different world you see behind the eyes of a Muslimah.  I also went there as a young strong, ready to take on the world young catholic woman, I went back to the University.  I graduated there.  I grew up there so I know, how people think, most, but was so surprised at the difference when you go there as a Muslimah.  All the things that you would never see happen just walking down the street as an average american, change and become different when they see you in long clothes and a headscarf.  I did feel I was a little girl when I went home, but then I felt like a force standing up for what I believed in as an American muslimah too.  Especially when people would slow down and stare at me as I paid for my drink and gas at the local gas station.  It can make you paranoid.  I’m glad you wrote this piece!!!

  • Micheletariq75

    I find it hypocritical when Muslims speak with such condemnation about Homosexuality yet few tackle the topic of adultery and fornication. If you were to look at most of the boards and leadership in any of the Mosques in America and a fair number of men in a lot of predominantly Muslim countries you would find that they have engaged in this behavior (adultery/fornication) at some time in their life. I really have not been able to determine that Allah has emphasized that  one of these sins is worse than the other.  Part of the problem Muslims have is that we cannot engage in honest conversations about these subjects. Recognizing that a behavior exists is not the same as endorsing it. This is why there is such a huge crisis in our Muslim communities among our youth. We are afraid to engage in conversation about these issues or recognize that feelings exist and teach them how to cope. Our communities have largely ignored these issues by refusing to discuss them openly and prefer to just label it as haram without explanation.

  • RS

    There is something very beautiful about this post. mA. It is really well written.

  • Ms Anish David

    Anyone who is Muslim or a minority of any kind… can appreciate the “paranoid” state one might find oneselves in when dealing with a place that “got on the map” because of how a “minority” was murdered. But as a Muslimah who embraced Islam while living in Wyoming; I also have found memories of that state. I didn’t come to Islam in Laramie, but one of its smaller communities further north. Yet I will admit, I would be careful even today traveling in such locations in attire identifiably “Muslim”. I live in a rural state (South Dakota) and I travel frequently and alone. Let us not be mistaken, there are still areas of this country that “driving while Black”, or “Driving while Indian” or “driving while Muslim” could draw the wrong sort of attention — But perhaps the Muslims need to be pulled out of their complacency and forced to address the skeletons in their closet. We have far too long denied many issues including issues of racism, nationalism, xenophobia… etc.  But its not just in isolated rural communities danger lurks. Muslims also need to face their Urban based dangers. Something few are willing to do. Instead they gather in them — and sit about complaining about the dunya they choose to live in.

  • Meryam.

    It was 1998, not 88.

  • Debby

    Not that it’s a HUGE deal, but Matthew Shepherd was killed in 1998, not 1988.

    • Debby

      Otherwise, this was a great bit about the town wherein I went to school. I love Laramie.


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